Aaron knelt on one knee, pulled out a beautiful ring on stage in front of the whole congregation. Our pastor was laughing and clapping, the whole church was celebrating with us. It must have been plain to them that we were destined to marry too, despite our age, in a society where statistics aren’t in our favor, God had a plan to bring us together at such a time as this.
It took a while for some to accept our decision, meanwhile, we began pre-marital counseling, devotions, and having serious conversations about our past, present, and future. We vowed even before our wedding day that the word “divorce” would never be a part of our vocabulary. And with all the foundation blocks in place, we finally began to build our dream. I planned a simple wedding, God and family provided everything we needed, and Aaron started moving into our own apartment.
After a year of engagement, we married Feb. 22 2014. And traveled to Gatlinburg, TN for our honeymoon. It was a beautiful ending to one chapter, and a joyous beginning of another. We were halfway through our week vacation when the phone call came. Our pastor, the one who mentored us and married us, had left the church (I won’t go into detail here). We immediately rushed back home and from there on, tried to keep a broken church together, even though we were broken beyond words.
There was no reconciliation, only a farewell note. And while some encouraged us to stay and keep things running, their words followed them out the door. Finally, we became so exhausted and burned out that Aaron and I finally gave up. At this point, the congregation had dwindled down greatly, and no one wanted to serve or even worship with all the pain and resentment in the air.
It was this decision that led us to Zion Christian Fellowship and our degree at the Columbus School of Supernatural Ministry. Both of which transformed me into the writer I am today. Aaron and I went on a second honeymoon, staying at a cozy cabin in the woods for a couple days. There we talked through our struggles and read God’s Word.
Throughout the past few years of marriage, we have overcome obstacles, matured in our Faith and understanding of God, have discovered more about each other and how God sees us. We have received direction and have come to recognize callings and giftings on our lives. Those who doubted our relationship in the past have come full circle, truly seeing God’s hand at work in our lives.
We bought our first home 3 years ago and after graduating CSSM, we felt called to return to our hometown and make a difference there. Now, at Hope Family Church, our family, we get to see all the hard work and blessings of God come to fruition. Aaron is the worship leader and serves on the board, I serve on the worship team and I’m director of our preschool-kindergarten class.
And that’s our story, so far. I know God is just beginning and I can’t wait to see what He does next in our lives. So what’s our secret? After 5 years of marriage, what have we learned? First, never grow up! The playfulness and romance we displayed at the beginning of our relationship are still very much alive, don’t get so caught up in life that you forget to have fun with your spouse (photos below for emphasis). Second, goes hand in hand with the first, laugh every day! I believe that laughing together is just as important as hugging/kissing each day. In other words, your spouse should be your best friend, and best friends enjoy each other when they get together. Lastly and most importantly, God is number one! Aaron and I are first and foremost His children, and our marriage should reflect His covenant. With this in mind, marriage remains something far deeper than any of us could understand and when problems arise we can just surrender them to Him.
Looking back has been so much fun, all these photos are only reminders of how very blessed I am. Aaron, this love story of ours…nothing compares to it. I love you forever and always ❤
For my followers! Thank you for reading, and Happy Valentine’s Day! God bless you all