Eye of the Beholder

On a daily basis we subconsciously ascribe worth and beauty to what we see around us. From the roses in our garden to the new girl on the block.

As I remodel my home and simultaneously search for a literary agent who will take on my first novel, I am left to wonder whether others will value my hard work as much as I do.

As I stated once before, no one will know the blood, sweat, and tears I shed, the time I spent, and nights I burned the midnight oil working. The truth is, the more we work/sacrifice for something—the greater it’s worth (personally).

Take a child, for example, who was freely given a toy. And another who worked hard, completing chores, picking up small jobs in their free time for weeks in order to buy that same toy.

Who do you think will value it more?

I tied beauty with value in this post because often what we value we also find beautiful in some way. There is an inward pull, an appreciation we feel toward it or them.

We are creatures of worship who also crave beauty (I speak of course, of a beauty that transcends what we outwardly see).

When I worked at a window factory, with its drab walls and machinery, I found myself starving for beauty. Those things crafted by the hand of God instead of by man. Sometimes, I would look up from my station and try and snatch a glimpse of the green trees through the high vents. And I would even smile when I caught a whiff of rain, or saw a dandelion seed float past.

Once home, I would immediately head outdoors to my hammock and just soak up the surroundings. Feeling rejuvenated and content.

Of course, to another, perhaps beauty is in the simplicity, instead of in the complex. What I found distasteful, another may find appealing.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder…

Do you see how different we are? Driving through town I often catch people picking through garbage cans and curbside boxes (dumpster diving) the night before trash day. Apparently finding worth in that which another found worthless.

Do you see how wrong we can be? “Oo-ing” and “awing” over celebrities (many of which are quite ugly underneath) while we turn away from those who have a heart of gold beneath their average appearances, wrinkled faces, and plain clothes.

That is why I am glad that God is the one who ascribes our worth. That He is the one who calls us each beautiful, looking purely at the heart beneath our temporary shells.

Jesus died for both the sinner and the saint. He loved us at our worst, at our ugliest moments. He looked at us “mere dust” and called us “priceless!”

If you find yourself staring in the mirror lately, noticing all too quickly the scars, weight gain, stretch marks, wrinkles/blemishes etc. It is time for you say, “I don’t have the power to define my worth—God does, and He calls me beautiful.”

Particularly us women always try to live up to the standards of men. We want to impress them with our looks and personalities—when really all we should care about is pleasing God (which in turn would open the door for the right man to come into your life). Our identity is found in Christ—placing it in anything or anyone else will always lead to disappointment and depression.

I really hope this speaks to someone out there. “You are more precious than rubies…” (Proverbs 3:15)

Your beauty is in the eyes of The Beholder!


5 thoughts on “Eye of the Beholder

  1. I’ve known people that I didn’t find attractive when I first met them, who became beautiful as I got to know and love them. I’ve also known a few people who were very impressive at first, but the shine wore off quickly when their true colors came out and they proved themselves to be shallow and self-centered. But then my opinion doesn’t count anyway. God’s is the only opinion that matters, and He looks not at the outside but at the heart.

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  2. Reblogged this on Zero Lift-Off and commented:
    Hi Hope! Very good conceptualization and view of the difficulty we face as individuals day in and day out being in a such a state of flux or in great need, being outside of the place we truly belong, which is with our Father in heaven. I had just thought about you and wanted to see if you had something posted today and then this evening when I checked my email listings the notice for this new posting was right at the top!

    It’s not the intrinsic outward perception of what we see with our eyes or the material value of an object, even that image of the material thing or object that we can physically touch, which is entirely fleeting, none of that matters in the end! It’s the unseen value, the greater hidden meaning and purpose which all eventually culminates into at the point of final judgment by God. Just like all of your efforts over time that no one outside of God actually sees or can fully perceive, not being with you 24/7 or seeing all you see through your own unique perspective. But, respect and genuine appreciation for anything of lasting value must come from the heart and soul, and only God the Father through Jesus Christ knows each heart completely; and in the final analysis that is all that matters!

    True one man’s junk can be another man’s treasure, but, to me this is all earthly yet ethereal because it’s a smoke and mirrors illusion, this is not real to me in a sense, actually nothing here is meant to last or be the begin all and end all! It’s a trap or maze in a sense, because nothing here will bring lasting happiness, nothing not ever; only the resulting death due to sin and the subsequent fallen state of being!

    So this temporary stopover in a real manner of speaking to the heart of it, is like being between that proverbial rock and a hard place.

    “14But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? For everything comes from You, and from Your own hand we have given to You. 15For we are foreigners and strangers in Your presence, as were all our forefathers. Our days on earth are like a shadow, without hope. 16O LORD our God, from Your hand comes all this abundance that we have provided to build You a house for Your holy Name, and all of it belongs to You.” 1 Chronicles 29:15

    “For we are aliens and vagrants in your presence, as were all of our ancestors. Our days on the earth pass away like shadows, and we have no hope.” 1 Chronicles 29:15

    “10Once you were not a people, but now you are the people of God; once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy. 11Beloved, I urge you, as foreigners and exiles, to abstain from the desires of the flesh, which war against your soul. 12Conduct yourselves with such honor among the Gentiles that, though they slander you as evildoers, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day He visits us.” 1 Peter 2:11

    “Dear friends, you are foreigners and strangers on this earth. So I beg you not to surrender to those desires that fight against you.” 1 Peter 2:11

    “Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them.” 1 John 2:15

    John 17:14 Jesus says, “I have given them your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world.”

    Then there is this fine perspective pointing to the dichotomy or inner and outer conflict we face daily!

    When we read of the “world” in the New Testament, we are reading the Greek word cosmos. Cosmos most often refers to the inhabited earth and the people who live on the earth, which functions apart from God. Satan is the ruler of this “cosmos” (John 12:31; 16:11; 1 John 5:19). By the simple definition that the word world refers to a world system ruled by Satan, we can more readily appreciate Christ’s claims that believers are no longer of the world—we are no longer ruled by sin, nor are we bound by the principles of the world. In addition, we are being changed into the image of Christ, causing our interest in the things of the world to become less and less as we mature in Christ.

    Believers in Jesus Christ are simply in the world—physically present—but not of it, not part of its values (John 17:14-15). As believers, we should be set apart from the world. This is the meaning of being holy and living a holy, righteous life—to be set apart. We are not to engage in the sinful activities the world promotes, nor are we to retain the insipid, corrupt mind that the world creates. Rather, we are to conform ourselves, and our minds, to that of Jesus Christ (Romans 12:1-2). This is a daily activity and commitment.

    We must also understand that being in the world, but not of it, is necessary if we are to be a light to those who are in spiritual darkness. We are to live in such a way that those outside the faith see our good deeds and our manner and know that there is something “different” about us. Christians who make every effort to live, think and act like those who do not know Christ do Him a great disservice. Even the heathen knows that “by their fruits you shall know them,” and as Christians, we should exhibit the fruit of the Spirit within us.

    Being “in” the world also means we can enjoy the things of the world, such as the beautiful creation God has given us, but we are not to immerse ourselves in what the world values, nor are we to chase after worldly pleasures. Pleasure is no longer our calling in life, as it once was, but rather the worship of God.

    I think this last short paragraph speaks directly to what you described, when in that drab setting describe and wanting to see outside of it or beyond that confined space into the beauty that is out there but almost out of sight and out of mind. This reminds me of the yearning we should have for Heaven and being with our Father or Creator, having nothing blocking us from seeing and being in His presence anymore, but instead, beholding His glory and being filled with His everlasting love!

    That is truly the Promised Land our Ultimate Inheritance that we must strive to reach, and that ultimately; will be based upon what we do here in the now, and how well we follow our Father’s will.

    And this statement said it so true! “When really all we should care about is pleasing God (which in turn would open the door for the right man to come into your life). Our identity is found in Christ—placing it in anything or anyone else will always lead to disappointment and depression.”

    Absolutely Hope! We are “Strangers in a Strange Land” who more than anything need to get to that “Promised Land,” which will never be here, so we are not of this world; but, are only of the “Kingdom to Come” which is with our Father in heaven. Amen.
    God bless!

    Brother in Christ Jesus,
    Lawrence Morra III

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    1. Thank you for the reblog and insight! Yes 😅 between working to complete our home and trying to publish I haven’t been posting as much as I would like. Thank you for sticking with me despite my delayed postings! God bless!

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      1. Hey Hope! I love your postings and frequency is not any concern for sure don’t give that a thought! I just naturally was thinking about you having not seen anything come along and had enjoyed the previous postings; but, not in any negative way, only wondering if you were too busy or had much more important things to do while of course hoping you were fine, which you now have explained is precisely the case; and that is great actually as I see it! Sounds really cool!

        No problem here, I will be around checking in, as long as I’m able; and I think your plans and actions are sounding excellent; like my Dad always told us, “First things First,” and you know your priorities I can tell!

        God bless you all there!
        Brother in Christ Jesus,

        Great article it really is!!!


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